Neediness is the root of suffering.

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There is an ocean of difference between being in need and being needy.  Since no man is an island, many times in our lives we would be in a position to need something - for ourselves, for others, from the next person and even from our maker.  And that is fine.

But to be in a state of consistent need, to be needy or in the position of neediness is to be disadvantaged and this is how and when suffering begins - suffering hurts.   A lot of people can get trapped easily into this phase, but surprisingly, many persons have no problem being in this state – else how can you explain the issue of beggars roaming our streets, or persons fabricating stories and devices to get emotions of pity and money out of people?   

via Lauren Crossley

It irks my spirit to see many abled-bodied individuals take to the streets to beg for money or end up con artists.  Not blind.  Not deaf.  All parts are complete.  And the technical encephalon works well.  It makes it really hard to comprehend.  And so is same even for physically disadvantaged people – I don’t understand why such people use their limitation as an excuse for incapacitation. Hello! There are tons of billionaire invalids out there, if I can be that extreme.

But then, how do some other persons get trapped in this state of suffering?  That is, the people who want but can’t have; the people who want but won’t have; the people who want and do nothing to have.  The answer is simple.  The mind.  Interesting how all these persons have one thing in common – they all want...and for the fact that you can't have what you want for whatever reasons should hurt.  The average mind is by default willing to be slothful, irresponsible and quick when it comes to transferring blame if one does nothing to recapture, renew and reprogram it. Varying statistics reveal more than average percentile will do nothing to get out of a safety zone and will be eventually comfortable with their current situation and accept it as fate. 

And some of the ones (that is, the ones that want but won’t have + the ones that want and do nothing to have) who ‘merely’ desire the luxury living of life and end up doing nothing substantial, relevant and long term, but start off initially living bogus lives on the 'fast lane', will sooner or later end up with nothing tangible to themselves, full of excuses, suffer by their procrastination, become depressed, emotional unstable and because of their poverty mentality, still blame other people for their eventual misfortune.

What about in relationships? These days, we see too many needy individuals ending up in relationships.  Such relationships have no real affection because it was built on the foundation of neediness; they only end up in emotional destruction, all forms of abuse resulting into violence and psychological harm.  Why? Because the pressure or need to be in the relationship (or marriage) is greater than the desire to be complete first in yourself, and be with a partner who is also already complete in themselves and represent ‘that little cherry on your cake for you rather than be the cake to you’.

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Enough. 

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Neediness is the root of suffering.  The one who remembers to thrive on the principles of singleness of purpose in whatever circumstances, under whatever condition or disability – and still lives a complete, unique, authentic and separated life –  will forever be free from the curse of deprivation and will never lack life’s good things and gifts.

This should be your focus in 2016.

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