Hello and Welcome! 2016

Hello guys.

So earlier today, we launched "More Than A Woman" (MORTAW) - a stronger vessels network connecting, supporting, liberating and empowering women from all walks of life, that have been through a difficult phase.

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Neediness is the root of suffering.

Photographer: Shaylin Janelle

There is an ocean of difference between being in need and being needy.  Since no man is an island, many times in our lives we would be in a position to need something - for ourselves, for others, from the next person and even from our maker.  And that is fine.

But to be in a state of consistent need, to be needy or in the position of neediness is to be disadvantaged and this is how and when suffering begins - suffering hurts.   A lot of people can get trapped easily into this phase, but surprisingly, many persons have no problem being in this state – else how can you explain the issue of beggars roaming our streets, or persons fabricating stories and devices to get emotions of pity and money out of people?   

via Lauren Crossley

It irks my spirit to see many abled-bodied individuals take to the streets to beg for money or end up con artists.  Not blind.  Not deaf.  All parts are complete.  And the technical encephalon works well.  It makes it really hard to comprehend.  And so is same even for physically disadvantaged people – I don’t understand why such people use their limitation as an excuse for incapacitation. Hello! There are tons of billionaire invalids out there, if I can be that extreme.

But then, how do some other persons get trapped in this state of suffering?  That is, the people who want but can’t have; the people who want but won’t have; the people who want and do nothing to have.  The answer is simple.  The mind.  Interesting how all these persons have one thing in common – they all want...and for the fact that you can't have what you want for whatever reasons should hurt.  The average mind is by default willing to be slothful, irresponsible and quick when it comes to transferring blame if one does nothing to recapture, renew and reprogram it. Varying statistics reveal more than average percentile will do nothing to get out of a safety zone and will be eventually comfortable with their current situation and accept it as fate. 

And some of the ones (that is, the ones that want but won’t have + the ones that want and do nothing to have) who ‘merely’ desire the luxury living of life and end up doing nothing substantial, relevant and long term, but start off initially living bogus lives on the 'fast lane', will sooner or later end up with nothing tangible to themselves, full of excuses, suffer by their procrastination, become depressed, emotional unstable and because of their poverty mentality, still blame other people for their eventual misfortune.

What about in relationships? These days, we see too many needy individuals ending up in relationships.  Such relationships have no real affection because it was built on the foundation of neediness; they only end up in emotional destruction, all forms of abuse resulting into violence and psychological harm.  Why? Because the pressure or need to be in the relationship (or marriage) is greater than the desire to be complete first in yourself, and be with a partner who is also already complete in themselves and represent ‘that little cherry on your cake for you rather than be the cake to you’.

nakedconvos.com

Enough. 

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Neediness is the root of suffering.  The one who remembers to thrive on the principles of singleness of purpose in whatever circumstances, under whatever condition or disability – and still lives a complete, unique, authentic and separated life –  will forever be free from the curse of deprivation and will never lack life’s good things and gifts.

This should be your focus in 2016.

via psychologytoday.com

#NoteToSelf

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Back To My Old Ways...

I think before this time, the last I was at the spa to treat myself this year was in May. Gosh…never has it been this long.  

It usually was month in month out routine.  But then trust me, even with all these months that I was occupied with my schedule with no time to spa, I did try out a few home rituals of my own. *wink*

So on this day right after Church, I went to one of my favourite spa centres on the island - Bnatural Med Spa.  I got in sore, I hadn’t been in a steam room for about six months, I felt heavy, moody and my body was aching.  I booked myself for a “Royal Hammam Treatment”, which comes with a 30 minute Swedish massage – It was perfect combination. And exactly what I needed.

The Moroccan Hammam bath has always been my all time favourite spa treatment.  It is a traditional sacred bath in a steam room that helps you to relax, cleanse and detox.  It is very much luxury cleansing in a steam room and this cleansing involves a lot of 'serious' scrubbing with traditional ingredients from Morocco including the native black soap made from black olives – which prepares the body for the deep exfoliation process.  You would actually see dirt or dead skin drop off your skin.  I love it.

Traditional Black Soap - "theviewfrommorocco"

After a Hammam bath, you sure come out glowing, revived, cleansed and your skin is clean and clear.  I personally really love the idea of the Swedish massage incorporated into this treatment, because the oils go deep into the pores and layers of my skin, help me to relax completely and restore moisture into my skin in the best way possible.

Now you know, if somehow I get ‘missing’, one of the few places you could check and be sure to find me would be in a beautiful spa centre.  Yes, it is that much of a fetish.

Hahahaha!!! Don't I look like one happy wet chicken?!!!

Aha! By the way... my office is closed for the year 2015.

2016 - A Brand New You or A Massive Improvement of Self…

What Are Your New Year’s Resolutions?

Every beginning of a new year, we are powered up, energised and filled with ideas, plans, goals and objectives of how we really want to take over ourselves, our lives, finances, careers, relationships and even take our spirituality to the next level… and never look back.  But very well and soon at about March of the same year, that drive to actualisation of our sworn-to-achieve resolutions made only in January is completely mollified by many reasons we can’t honestly place our fingers on.  We are already and very quickly back to our old autopilot selves and not only that, we live in silent guilt of being failures to even our own self-prepared goals.  More often than not, and unknowingly, this affects our looks outwardly, shrinks our confidence levels and piles up negativity in our body languages.

So, is having a New Year resolution a bad idea? Certainly not!  Truth be told, sticking to resolutions is not one of the easiest of tasks, in fact, according to a research from the University of Scranton, only 8% of people successfully achieve their resolutions.  Experts even reveal further that it takes about 21 days for a new activity to become a habit and 6 months for it to become part of one’s personality.  So we can safely surmise that lack of patience, tiring out all too quickly plus other factors are the biggest contributors to failed resolutions. 

I would like to share with you, 5 important tips for successfully achieving your resolutions and all of these usually require dedication, sniper focus and self-belief.  Can you do this?  Say your response out so loud.

1.     Make and see your resolution as a journey and not an outcome or destination.

2.     Write it down, keep it simple without complications and make a vision board.

3.   Write down short-term goals for long-term results and build in enticing reward systems for each successful short-term goal accomplished towards the bigger expectations.  Be accountable, be 100 % responsible and no matter what, never pass blame.

4.    Surround yourself with a network of few good friends with similar resolutions as you, talk about it often together and reevaluate yourselves to keep yourself motivated and on course.

5.     Make out time from the beginning and don’t throw in the towel so easily.

You can write to us at BlondeDolly Image Consulting about your New Year resolutions, whatever they are and we can work with you to bringing them to enjoyable and successful accomplishment.
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Or drop me a direct message in the contact form at the bottom of this journal page.

Here's to your 2016.  To achieving all your written down resolutions. So help you God.